Maybe there are many reasons for getting married, peer pressure or because you have kids. Truth is, there is only one reason why you should get married: You’re in love. As long as you love someone it does not matter what life throws at you. If you are unsure whether or not you’re in love, you’re not. If you are unsure if your boyfriend loves you, you’re not.
Are they your final emotional destination?
Marriage is something to be taken seriously, do you really want to be with this person? If you have found someone who loves you and you love them back you are blessed, people spend lifetimes trying to find the love of their lives. Don’t throw that away.
Are you just sliding into it?
Do you really want to get married or are you just sliding into it? Marriage is a mistake that’s hard to get out of unscathed – whether that be emotionally or financially. Being in a loveless marriage is something nobody should have to put up with. Don’t just get married because your mother is nagging you.
Do you just want a big day?
They say the most important day in a women’s life is her wedding day. I like to think this isn’t true, but it is still something women, and men! After the dress, the presents and the honeymoon you will have to spend the rest of your life with this person. Not really worth one glamorous day.
Do you know each other? Does the other person listen?
You have to know the person you are marrying. Can you communicate with them? Can you talk openly? If you tell your partner that something annoys you do they make the effort to change? If someone love you they will do anything they can to keep you around, they will care about your thoughts and feelings. You also have to accept the other person, good and bad.
And another thing…
Talk about finance, children, future goals together. It’s okay to be nervous, to be unsure, relationships are hard, but if you really love the person you are with, what are you waiting for?
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